Too Much? Or Just Enough?

Why being 'a lot' is actually your superpower.

Let’s get one thing straight: I know I can be a lot sometimes. I talk fast, think faster, and my voice has a habit of carrying, sometimes even across state lines. (What can I say? I’m efficient.) I’m outgoing, I love a good conversation, and I’m not one to sit quietly in the corner (though, let’s be real - I am totally a homebody at heart, too; just not shy…at all). But here’s the thing: being “a lot” isn’t a flaw; it’s a feature.

And honestly? It’s a feature I’ve grown to love about myself.

It’s Not About Everyone - It’s About Your People

Somewhere along the way, being “too much” became the ultimate insult. You’re too loud. Too opinionated. Too extra. People love to tell you to tone it down, like you’re a playlist that needs adjusting.

But here’s the kicker: you don’t need everyone to like you. The right people won’t just accept your “a lot”…they’ll appreciate it. They’ll jump in, match your energy, and cheer for more. You’ll inspire them. Because the right people? They don’t feel overwhelmed; they feel seen.

The Right Person Doesn’t Shrink You

For a while, when I was single, and dating, I sometimes thought I needed to “be less.” Less excited. Less opinionated. Less... me. Spoiler alert: it didn’t work. Turns out, trying to be palatable for everyone only makes you forgettable.

In relationships, the magic happens when someone sees all of you - the quirks, the chaos, the you-ness, and says, “Yes, more of that, please.” The wrong person might see my fast-talking tangents as overwhelming. The right person? They jump in, keep up, and maybe even bring snacks for the ride. I’ve often said my “a lot-ness” men have found endearing/adorable or just the opposite!

Don’t Blend In When You’re Meant to Stand Out

Look, I get it. It’s scary to put yourself out there as the full, unfiltered version of you. What if they don’t like it? What if you’re “too much”? Well, here’s the truth: you’re not for everyone. But you’re also not supposed to be.

When you show up as your real, unedited self, you don’t waste time with people who can’t handle the vibe. Instead, you make room for the ones who can’t get enough of it.

Stop Taking Up Less Space

The world loves to tell you to shrink. Don’t listen. Making yourself smaller to make others comfortable doesn’t make you lovable; it just makes you invisible.

Here’s the better move: take up all the space you need. Be bold, be loud, be unapologetically you (I mean, please don’t be obnoxious..to be clear, I’m not saying that at all in this article!). The right people will never ask you to quiet your brilliance. They’ll celebrate it.

When You’re ‘A Lot,’ You’re Exactly Enough

The next time someone calls you “a lot,” wear it like a badge of honor. Take up space. Be bold. Talk fast. Laugh loud. Be you. Because when you stop apologizing for your “too much,” you make space for people who love you because of it, not in spite of it.

And let’s be honest: life’s way too short to water yourself down.

xoJulie